A very close friend of mine recently received some upsetting news and naturally felt quite stressed as a result. A short while after speaking with her, I realized how crappy I was feeling inside. I was worrying about my friend. Plus, I began personalizing her situation. Allowing it to bring up old feelings of similar memories in my past. And in doing all of this, I felt really down. Anxious, fearful, and rocking a major lack mindset.
I was allowing my thoughts to imagine the worst, which created these yucky feelings. When I gained awareness of this, I realized it isn’t helping me and it isn’t helping my friend. Ultimately being worried for someone does not change the situation. There are other (and better) ways to show concern and care for someone. So I changed my thinking.